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Resolutions Revamped


Do you make New Years Resolutions each year? 
I have always loved the fresh start that a new year provides and have always looked forward to setting goals. 
However, this year, I'm approaching Resolutions from a fresh perspective that has totally changed the way I think about my life & goals for the future. 

As 2017 has been packing it's bags, I've been thinking about the resolutions + goals I want to set for myself this year. However, I've felt a little discouraged because my good intentions made in January rarely make it past March. Anyone else feel this way? Well I just listened to this podcast, and it was exactly what I needed to rethink how I make resolutions + was the jumping off point for some personal reflection + meaningful direction for my life. So combining ideas from the podcast  +  combining strategies from my own resolution successes and failures (mostly failures),  here is a 5 step process to creating resolutions that will give you meaningful and achievable goals. 

1. DONT TRY TO SET A MILLION GOALS FOR YOURSELF

Maybe this is just me, but there have been past years where my New Years Resolution page seems like it's front and back, single spaced, size 10. I think as people, and especially women, we tend to be really hard on ourselves and can at any given moment think of 100 things we would like to change about ourselves + our lives. Setting a million goals for yourself will do nothing but make you feel like a New Years Failure because HELLO THERE'S NO WAY WE CAN ACHIEVE ALL OF THEM. Go ahead, try it if you think you can. But at least for me, I have to really minimize my goals so that they are at least realistic and achievable. I'm a firm believer that if you can't count your goals on your fingers, you have too many. 

2. FOCUS ON USING POSITIVE LANGUAGE

Nothing gets the new year off to a bad start like writing down a list of things that are all conveying the message that you've been doing awful. Instead of thinking of what you'd like to lose/stop, brainstorm things you want to gain/start doing. Avoid saying things like "Stop eating the whole dang package of oreos" or "Don't sit on your phone all day".  Instead, use positive language like "Develop more portion control" or "Start setting a limit for social media". I'm a big believer that we need to talk positively and kindly to ourselves, and making positive goals for ourselves can help us feel motivated to reach them. 

3. DIVIDE YOUR LIFE INTO 5 MAIN AREAS WHERE YOU WOULD LIKE TO GROW

 Ideas include mentally, socially, spiritually, physically, personally, or financially. These categories could be improving relationships, improving in your career, goals specifically for your home life, school work, or church callings. 
I decided that this year I would like to improve spiritually, physically, financially, personally, and in my relationships. However, over the past years I have varied the categories that I've used. 

4. FOR EACH CATEGORY, WRITE 1-2 WORDS DESCRIBING HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL AT THE END OF 2018. 

I loved this idea of letting your feelings of personal satisfaction guide your goals. In education, we talk about backwards design/beginning with the end in mind. I love that we can use this idea in our own lives. Think about how you want to FEEL in each of these areas, and let that feeling be the determiner of your success... not your dress size. 
Spiritually - Energized daily
Physically - Healthy
Financially - Secure
Personally - Confident
Relationships - Genuine + Loving

5. FOR EACH WORD, WRITE 1-3 THINGS YOU ARE GOING TO DO TO HELP YOU GAIN THAT FEELING.  

 (Remember, use positive language like "start" or "more" instead of "stop" or "don't"!)

ENERGIZED DAILY: 
more prayer
more scriptures
more meditation

HEALTHY:
more fruits + veggies
more exercise
more control

SECURE:
more put into savings
more distinguishing between wants and needs
more smart spending

CONFIDENT:
more authenticity 
more forgiving of my shortcomings + failures
more body positivity

GENUINE + LOVING:
more compliments
more patience
more support of those I love


So there you have it! I loved this easy mapping of how I wanted to feel in 2018,
 and hope parts (or maybe even the whole!) of it resonate with you as you think about how you'd like 2018 to look in your life. Happy New Year friends! 
XOXO
Love P

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